Can I be your priority too?

‘When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.’
-Donald Miller.

Dear person behind the screen,

I have been thinking about priorities recently. When we fall in love or feel sympathy or meet new friends, we learn to separate them from the rest of the people we know or that we used to know. In other words we learn to prioritize, drawing fine lines between people for who we will be there no matter what InstagramCapture_c0649e74-b5e9-4111-8a07-35a9578d6e3eand others. This made me think: you can never be too busy, it is all a matter of priorities.

So what do you do when you are prepared to stay up till 5 am to hear from a person, cancel a meeting you have planned long ago just because they need you this second, or even sacrifice other relationships of various natures just to be with them. What do you do, when you stay up fighting through sleep but that call never comes through. A thought that you are not the priority. Have you ever been one at all?

The impulsive persona within me wants to treat the person the same way, to make them understand that my care in not unconditional and that I wont always be there at the first call. But after a few minutes or maybe hours, the truth becomes apparent. They might act like that, but you don’t want to be like them, you want to treat people the way you want to be treated. And so you let it go.

Does this mean that you swallow your pride and allow them to take advantage of you or does this simply mean you care? Regardless of which one it is, how long can this go on? Of course, we can’t (at least most of us can’t) read minds, and that person really might care. But how many times do you have to get hurt because the person rejects your affection and feelings because of something that somebody else did to them?

Perhaps no relationships can be as smooth as sunshine, there always comes a shadow But which shadow do you over look and which do you escape?

Truly yours,


Photo credits: BestSayings

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